Dr. Mary Anne Fifield, CSAT, CAS, LMFT.
Therapy for Individuals in Recovery
Stepping Free
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Stepping Free: Step Six
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Defects of Character or Shortcomings are patterns of behavior learned in childhood to deal with the unique stressors of living. We all have them, just some are more troublesome than others. Having accepted their reality in your life, the time has come…
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Stepping Free: Step Seven
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. Remedy for the removal of our shortcomings or defects of character, to own them, face them, ask God to remove what we can’t. Humbly: We humbly (recognition that we can’t) ask our God, our Higher Power, the God of our understanding to remove the defect. God helps…
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Stepping Free: Step Eight
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. Harmed: The dysfunctional patterns of behavior we used to cope have caused harm to ourselves and others. Not only our addiction/codependency, but also the way we “do” life. We had learned to lie when telling the…
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Stepping Free: Step Nine
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Amends: Amends are taking responsibility for harms done. Again, we make amends about our behavior. We must not cause more harm to the person harmed or others who are connected to that person. We must be…
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Stepping Free: Step Ten
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Are we willing to continue to look at our motives, intentions, behaviors, actions for the rest of our lives? Consider this: Appetites. We are tri-part beings. We have a spirit, a soul, and a body. Each part has an appetite. All…